Selfishness doesn’t have to be a bad thing, or more so doesn’t have to be associated with a negative aura. There comes a time when selfishness is important for personal development. It’s essential for when those self-realization moments arise that you need to focus on you, focus on fulfilling your needs, and embrace being selfish to achieve your desires.
Life teaches us some of the most powerful lessons either directly or indirectly. It comes a time when those deep moments hit us, that we have been giving ourselves to others. This may not be a bad thing for parents who sacrifice their all for their children. However, at the same time, that parent still need to take care of themselves and ensure their basic wellbeing is prospering. This situation is drastically different when it comes those persons, who either have a friend or family member that they always support. Cases where they leave themselves without, so that, the other person can have, always willing to go the extra mile for that person. Some might say that’s not a bad thing, but it becomes draining when that person doesn’t give you back the same energy. It’s like a 1-way relationship which then leads to thoughts on why do I focus all my energy on this person while I am not giving myself the attention that I need.
Focusing on fulfilling your needs, that’s the important step, be fully selfish about it. The same amount of time you invest into others without feeling the appreciation but deterioration of your mental psyche. It’s time that every second goes into you, the time you spend on someone on how their program is coming alone, the constant motivation you give to them. Ask yourself the same questions every day, give yourself the same motivation every hour. Don’t get me wrong being that stone for someone is not a bad thing, it’s those moments that you don’t get the same energy back, because at the end of the day, you both should be glowing. Even if that persons provides you with that support, you still always have to hold yourself accountable to improving who you are as a person.
The strongest moment comes when you don’t feel guilty about focusing on you. There will be times when this may cross your mind, or there will be persons that make you feel that way. These moments are character building moments, how you respond to your thoughts and the words of others. Everything in life grows, so your behavior must flourish. Why spend 2 to 6 hours on the phone everyday either messaging people or talking to them, when you could be using 3/4 of that time investing in you. whether it’s some skill that you need to develop to achieve a particular goal. No matter what it is, just do it for you unapologetically.
Simply evaluate the situation you’re in with others and you will make that conscious decision, where everyone should be winning. Embrace the type of selfishness that wouldn’t see you falling behind on evolving as a person.
